When Loss Comes Before Death

Older adults often experience profound grief through the loss of autonomy and physical abilities before death occurs, according to Barbara Freres, a hospice chaplain at St. Camillus.

Freres noted that seniors may grieve the loss of independence, such as the ability to drive, cook, or live alone. Leaving a longtime home can also cause grief that manifests as anxiety, anger, or confusion.

Family members also face emotional challenges during these transitions. Freres observed that spouses may experience a significant change in daily life when one partner requires memory care while the other remains independent. This process can lead to anticipatory grief, a gradual sense of impending loss felt by loved ones while the person they care for is still living.